Vita Magna Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting, PLLC

Vita Magna is Latin for “Great Life.” And you were meant to have one. But a great life isn't built on quick fixes, pop-psychology trends, or the latest coping techniques. It requires rock-solid psychological and emotional maturity. I work with Catholic and Christian men in leadership who, by all external accounts, look incredibly successful—but inwardly, find themselves stuck repeating the same old reactive patterns. Whether you're facing family challenges, relationship ruptures, or hidden compulsions, the answer isn't just "praying harder." That is spiritual bypassing. Grace builds on nature. If your underlying psychological foundation has serious structural deficits, you won't be able to freely cooperate with God's action in your life. But neither is the answer more navel-gazing and blind validating. Dr. Murray Bowen, the pioneer of the family systems movement, realized that genuine growth doesn't come from the medical model of a passive patient receiving treatment from an expert. That growth comes when one man courageously decides that, instead of running from the problem or waiting for others to solve it for him, he's going to take radical ownership of the part he's been playing in it. This work is DIY therapy—almost. Together, we'll map your "first formation"—your family system—to understand how you learned to move through the world. This isn't about labeling, blaming, or writing off your family: it's about becoming the self-possessed, mature man who can re-engage these primary relationships without giving up or giving in. When needed, we can utilize EMDR to clear any past traumatic bottlenecks. Know this: real growth in maturity is a psychological and emotional workout. If you're looking for a conventional approach oriented mostly to help make you "feel better" in the short term, I'm not your guy. But if you are ready to see the whole system, understand your place in it, and risk doing something about it—then let's get to work.